The Anti-Self-Help Books that Are Actually Helpful
Self-help books can be a great source of encouragement, but they can also be idealistic bullshit.
Sometimes you just don’t need the “how to be a high-achiever” and “say yes to everything” crap. Love you Socrates, but what the hell am I supposed to do with “the only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing”.
Anti-self-help books rip up the rule-books and give you real, straightforward advice on how to live your best life. And sometimes it’s as simple as not giving a f*ck.
Here are some of the world’s best-selling anti-self-help books.
Anti-self help- quirky phase or wickedly intriguing insights? We check out the top 6 and give you the run down, by Jasmin Pedretti.
Forget everything you think you know and let Manson slap you in the face with the secret to a good life. Instead of worrying so much, find one thing that gives you meaning and devote all your fu*ks to it. This saves a whole lot of time and energy. Find that ‘thing’ that aligns with your personal values so you can stop searching for happiness and just accept your wonderful life as it is.
Learn about the theories of the 19th-century philosopher, Alfred Adler, by eavesdropping on a chit-chat between a philosopher and a young boy. The theory is that you can determine your own destiny as long as you dare to live free of the shackles of other’s expectations. Essentially, don’t stress if everyone hates you because being disliked is proof that you are living according to your own principles.
Finally, a book that tells you to worry more about yourself and encourages you to fuck up. It might sound counterintuitive. In fact, it sounds like a guide on how to be a selfish mess. But the reality is, looking out for yourself and embracing your imperfections and shitty mistakes can be the answer to happiness. Don’t worry about what everyone expects of you. Make mistakes, bounce back, and continue being your own kick-ass self.
An ‘etiquette guide’ does not sound funny or remotely fun to read. However, this is different. It’s basically a how-to-not-be-a-dick guide in a world inevitably filled with dicks. It offers practical tips for navigating 21st-century social situations through comedy and 1940’s retro-style illustrations. You know when the first line of the book is “throughout history, there have been dicks”, you’re in for a good laugh and real-talk advice.
Lawson uses disjointed, blog-like points to explain how to cling onto your mental stability by your fingernails. Her no-nonsense collection of confused thoughts explores her own personal battle with mental illness. Her advice is to take those “fine” moments and make them “amazing” because they are the moments that we take into battle to fight depression. She says to find joy in being outrageous because craziness isn’t all that bad.
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