The Why Of The World

The Why Of The World

Nothing frustrates me more than the smoke and mirrors of marketing.

 

There is no greater culprit than social media and magazines (I can attest to that after years in the front row). Apps to change colors, make people skinnier, dedicated social media corners in otherwise messy homes and carefully curated ‘editorial’ that coincidentally showcases advertisers products…these are all ‘games’ I’ve seen played in the industry over the 20 years I’ve worked in marketing and media.

13 years ago, I started a little magazine in my hometown. It was sold a few years ago now, but it makes me very proud to still see it on the shelves today. When I started my second magazine, nine years ago, I was determined to keep it ‘real’ – no photoshopping, no excessive styling (making a bed or fluffing a pillow was OK, but that’s about as far as we went) – and I think I was living in a bit of a bubble as to how bad it was getting out there amongst even the most every day of people.

 

When I sold that second magazine, I was lucky to score a book deal with a small publisher.

How fun! I thought. I will just get to focus on creating great content, and I don’t have to worry about the rest. However, my concepts – about ‘real life’ were not received well and when I was asked to use a ‘stock shot’ (that’s a photo bought from a library of cataloged images) instead of the using an image that actually related to the piece, I knew it was time to make a move…and possibly head back to doing things my way.

 

So, Of The World Books was born.

I wanted to show readers that a perfectly curated ‘insta-room’ wasn’t the answer to happiness and that the best way to live is the way that suits YOU. My first three Homes Of The World books covered a variety of people living their dream. From a literal tin shed in Seychelles to an architecturally designed retreat in the Scottish Highlands…it’s all perfect if it’s what really makes your heart sing.

Later, I collaborated with a talented writer to explore artist’s homes and studios – if anyone knows how to live in a way that makes someone happy and creative, it’s those guys.

Food was next  – after seeing a photographer friend work with a food stylist who carefully ‘built’ the perfect lasagna from cardboard and pins and fake cheese, I wanted to show that great tasting food doesn’t have to be styled within an inch of its life (and that terrible chefs, like me, have half a chance of recreating a new recipe if they’re game!)

Of The World Books has extended, over the last three years, to include two additional imprints (Fiosracht Press – Fiosracht is Gaelic for curiosity and wisdom – covers food, advice, and learning; and Accidental Publishing, for fiction) and an exciting 13 titles with nine more planned already for 2019. It’s a wonderful world we live in, where email and digital communication allows us to meet and discover people from all over the globe, and where a small independent publisher has the chance to create something real and share it with anyone and everyone!

 

Titles from Of The World Books, Fiosracht Press and Accidental Publishing can be found on their website or at any good online bookstore. Submissions are welcome.

 

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Murder on the Dance Floor

Murder on the Dance Floor

Murder on the Dance Floor, by Kirsten Macdonald

There was a Greek man who had a way with words. Pre: warning this is a long one, so pull up a comfy chair and a beverage. It’s about to get real, ponderings or wafflings of Kirsten- you decide…

 

Anyway back to the Greek dude, he had this cool story about a Cave. It has challenged humans for hundreds of years and inspired them, like a never-ending piece of string. As an endearing Ogre once said, “there are layers.” For those that don’t know, here is the lowdown. We welcome Plato to Ponderings.

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There is a cave with three prisoners tied to the roof and cannot look at anything but the cave wall in front of them. They have been there since birth never seeing outside the cave.

 

Unbeknownst to them, behind them, there is a fire. Between the prisoners and the light of the fire is a walkway. People walk along this walkway with all sorts of objects as well as small animals etc., like dogs and rodents.

 

As the people walk past, their shadows projected onto the wall in front of the prisoners. Imagine if this were you- if you had never seen these people, objects or animals before you would believe that the shadows of these things are ‘real.’

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The prisoners play a guessing game; each one guesses what they are seeing and give it a name. The best guess according to them becomes the holder of all answers to nature.

 

One day the chains holding one of the prisoners becomes brittle and breaks, the prisoner then escapes and leaves the cave.

 

Shocked by what he sees outside,  he does not believe it can be real.

 

As he becomes accustomed to his new surroundings, he ponders on if the shadows were real or if this world he sees is real. An intellectual journey ensues. He understands that his life in the cave was useless and the guessing game was pointless. He sees that the light is the source of life.

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The prisoner returns to the cave to tell the other prisoners of his findings. Instead of listening to his voice of reason, the other prisoners threaten him with violence and death if he tries to set them free.

Interesting…

2018 is coming to an end. There are susurrations in the world alluding to the breaking of chains. Can you sense it?

Let’s be honest here, looking into the light and stepping into the metaphoric sun could scorch your arse, who are we kidding? It is a bit of whoa and a whole lot of hanging onto your bums; this ride is going to be big. You in?

What if instead of making a New Year’s resolution you make a daily one?

What if each morning you choose to be very observant so when the opportunity to reflect and be inquisitive about life presents itself, you can take it, hold it in your hand as a gift or like a new species you haven’t witnessed before. You may have encountered it a million times but never noticed it had wings that could make it fly…

Stepping into a place of real propagates growth under its light and warmth. Hangups and resistance lose their weightedness, no longer of service, weakened like brittle bars on a cage.

If you experience the bars crackling away, it gives room for Joy to enter. Realization and Epiphany are her friends, and they are contagious. While Joy is lots of fun, Realization can be a hard taskmaster and Epiphany can be two-faced, gifting either inspiration or hurt.

In my experience, the next dip in the ride happens like clockwork: not everyone wants to catch the bug, like those folks still chained up.

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I am told by reliable sources with qualifications it is okay; it’s not you, it’s them. The chains are comfortable and aren’t disruptive. Disruption and change can unbalance and disturb people’s perception and equilibrium. In some cases, people can even act like asses. Asses come in all shapes and sizes. Passive aggressive is one that tickles my angry bone, outright agro is at least honest, patronizing or just wholly non-committal can be irritating otherwise known as Shruggers, or Whatevs. The clincher is when you were thinking you are out in the sunshine when you are in fact daydreaming while still chained up. There is no room for arrogance in life is there?

Perchance, you are in the company of awesome glimmering shiny people, and you are not in a cave but on a fabulous dance floor, losing yourself to the beat and the fun of movement, in the real sun, relishing the ride and excitement.

Some will smile and want to get on the dance floor with you and fly their freak flag too.

Some people will smile and wave with one hand while they throw rotten fruit with the other because deep down inside they want the connection, they wish to step onto the floor. Light and shade. It is the order of things.

 As much as you cry out the invitation to C’MON and grab their hands and beg them to dance with you, you cannot make them. You cannot push and shove people. You really must not. Maybe their ankles are sore, perhaps their tender heart is broken, and they need time to heal it so that when they step onto the dance floor, it is their decision and will feel proud of the steps they took. Not by being dragged up by you.

Have you experienced this? You try and drag people up, and they shuffle their feet for as long as is necessary then quickly retreat to the chair to talk to someone or get on with what they were doing. It’s a groovy disco for happy folks and enablers too lol. There are all types here.


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Some will go and drink and pretend no one is dancing at all, and some will self-medicate as it is all just a bit too much and they have no idea how to even walk to the floor because they were told their whole lives they have no legs. Blog space Some will make their own cubby house under the table with their friends, tucked in and feeling calm and safe. Everyone in their own time. Maybe you get up in your best sparkly stilletos and twist your ankle because you were so busy farting rainbows you didn’t see the cracks in the floor. It happens. As the very wise author Gary Zukav says “We are at earth school you know, anything can happen.” See the video after this article- it’s worth watching.

 Perhaps your chains broke a long while ago and being in amongst the haste and hustle is wearing you down, leaving you enervated and midding. The world can be a wytai. Homesickness may kick in. Or you could sprain your ankle with your big sparkly platforms.

I happened upon a gem.  

 If you suddenly became aware this week that it is your last on this earthly plane- I can predict that you will not seek permission to do what you want, you will not hang on to old hurts as a reason for delay or resistance.

 You will quite possibly think about the things you haven’t done you wish you had. You may

think of the people you genuinely love the deepest and want to express it to them.  You will undoubtedly ponder about forgiveness and redemption. There will present a need for impulse and desire,  a flashover or two. You will feel more love than envy or hate.

Alternatively, the fear of failing to trust yourself will hit you in the face like a backyard cricket game gone wrong.

However, I do know this my friends; you will indeed get up walk to  the dance floor like a bug towards the light.

I have lived this and am blessed with good fortune to continue to be here in this wonderfully confusing place for what I hope and trust is much longer than what was anticipated. However, none of us ever really know do we?  Sometimes turning to the light means thinking about our mortality. Restless inner stirring within is an unfulfilled destiny seeking you out. Perpetual and timely.

 Listening to the music and understanding the rhythm of life in a new way with a realization that the DJ can play some pretty cool beats is not a bad place to be.

  PS- if you are can you bring ice? I twisted my ankle and my arse is on fire. x Kirst

 

 

 

 

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Tales From The Authory

Tales From The Authory

Karen Brooks Tales from The Authory Ponderings Magazine

 

As someone who is fortunate enough to make a living from writing (historical fiction and a weekly newspaper and advice column), I often get asked what my writing process is like and what inspires me.

 

I wish I could say something really clever or divulge some kind of shared magic. Better still, I’d love to be able to say I sit in front of my computer in a dreamy haze, mounds of chocolate biscuits to one side, dressed in pyjamas, and let my fingers glide over the keyboard as stories pour forth in an unstoppable rush. I wish. The truth is, sadly, really dull. Writing, whether fiction or fact, is a hard grind for me. Not “hard” in the way other people’s jobs are (and ones I’ve had in the past), but in a sense, I take writing very seriously; treat it as a business (after all, I’ve deadlines, contracts, other people who rely on me). I work at it for set hours every day, and rewrite, edit, cut and delete in order to try and create the best stories and columns I possibly can. It doesn’t always come easy and certainly needs a lot of refining.

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But I’m getting ahead of myself.

 

Let me tell you how I approach novel writing…

 

Which is far more interesting than admitting how, akin to a (boring) sponge, I absorb as many newspapers and TV bulletins daily in order to write topical columns that contribute to social debate and prick the conscience – and generally make myself miserable about the state of the world in the process (but that’s another story).

 

When I start a new book, I tend to read a great deal of relevant historical non-fiction and fiction and completely immerse myself in the era. I spend months before I commence ordering books, journals, and documents; everything from court transcripts to academic treatises, maps, Ph.D.’s, to wonderful novels by talented writers set in the same period. I spend one-two years researching, usually while I’m in the editing and final stages of the previous book.

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I take copious notes, re-read books, pour over maps and any paintings or photographs, and watch documentaries pertinent to the time as well. Then, when I feel I’m ready, I write. (I usually know because I can’t NOT write.)

 

I already know how the book will start and end.

 

But, how the book unfolds and where the characters take me is a complete mystery. In that sense, I am more a pantster (writing by the seat of my pants) than a plotter.

 

Listening to music composed in the era is really motivating, as is burning scented candles to evoke moods. I’ve been fortunate enough to travel to the places I write about (if not the time – where’s Dr. Who and the Tardis when you need her?), so my photos and recollections while in situ are so helpful.

 

As for my inspiration…

 

Apart from history, and everything else mentioned, especially other people’s wonderful words and music, and my wonderful dogs, it’s people who are my main inspiration. The dead and the living.  All the crazy, terrible, unjust and cruel as well as loving, heroic, brave and foolish things we do – to each other and ourselves – in the past and now.

 

It constantly depresses, challenges, emboldens and inspires me, to write, to ponder and to think about how we can all be better. I think about how I can write stories that capture what makes us who we are and where we can be and which fire the imagination. Then, I just hope like hell people like reading them as much as I love writing them.

 

I don’t know any author who sets out to write a book (or journalist a column or story) that doesn’t excite and move people. I’m no different. I just wish I was better at it too.

 

About Karen:

Dr. Karen Brooks: is an Author,  columnist, social commentator and academic. Karen is also a part of a gorgeous brewery in Tasmania with her partner. The brewery and the authory keep her busy! 

www.karenrbrooks.com

Twitter: KarenBrooksAU

Associate Professor and Honorary Senior Research Fellow IASH, Institute for Advanced Studies in the Humanities, University of Queensland.

Columnist for the Courier Mail.

Advice columnist for U On Sunday

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A Transformative Life

A Transformative Life

Jillie Carter Article Ponderings

There is a photograph of Jillie A. Carter as a young school teacher and beauty queen…

 

Her delicate features and radiance shining from the picture, the kindness in her eyes stands out in a way that says “I am here to help people.” I saw this picture once on a visit to her home tucked away in the hill rise of Geelong. I was taken aback, many decades later her external beauty had not faded one scrap, and in addition to the elegance and kindness in her eyes, there is a wisdom of ages that validates this did in fact happen. Jillie A. Carter has indeed helped people.

 

 

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With a career spanning more than 40 years dedicated to the service and well-being of others, Jillie has walked the road less traveled.  From the offices of the corporate world to the classrooms of our children and the vulnerable space of women’s shelters- Jillie has been a guide for transformation. An advocate for the broken and inspirational.

 

Jillie has a trove of chapters in her story, but it is the one about her guidance from Louise Hay back in the formative days we thought you may enjoy.

 

Some influential humans have impacted holistic healing in the world, but one that genuinely ensorcelled the world is Louise Hay. The incredible author, mentor, and movement maker has impacted the lives of millions of people around the world and continues to do so via Hay House, a legacy that carries on her work internationally after her passing in 2017.

Jillie became acquainted with Louise’s work in the late 1970s, and what has ensued is a journey of servitude to others and a life of healing.

 

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What Drove You to Start Your Self Awareness and Healing Journey?

I read Louise ’s book “ You Can Heal Your Life  “ which had a profound effect on me.

Before this, I had been to wellness retreats in Australia and had delved into meditation. I heard about Louise’s courses coming to Australia and I was interested in it but was procrastinating about going.

In sheer frustration in listening to my procrastination, my husband dialed the phone number for Louise ’s course, handed me the phone and I found myself talking to Patricia Crane, Louise Hay’s co-worker who assisted Louise with the writing of the workshop manuals for the Teacher Training and  Personal Coaching.

The Teacher Training Course involved about 35 people from different parts of Australia, coming together to connect with the aim being to change their life.

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This course was to be a powerful channel for me to investigate and acknowledge the resentment, guilt, and feelings of not being good enough that I held deep within my own being.

So off I flew to Perth, Western Australia, to undertake the Louise L. Hay Teacher Training Course. This was a unique opportunity to get close to Louise’s work as it was the first time a training course based on her book was to be run in Australia. It was a life-changing, intense and nurturing environment exploring extensive therapies.  

As well as the Louise L. Hay growth exercises we were introduced to her Mirror work. Each one of us had a mirror into which we were to look and say out loud “I Love Myself.”

How powerful was this exercise?

 

Most of us were in tears because this was just too threatening. Gradually we learned about the power of affirmations and the steps to arriving at being able to say “ I Love Myself. “

Later in September of the same year, “The Advanced Training Course/ Personal Coaching Course” was run in California U.S.A. and off I went. This gave me a qualification to work one to one with people as a “Personal Life Coach.” The past eighteen years I have worked with a wide range of clients including professional, trade, students and people from multicultural and diverse backgrounds.

The training I received enabled me to identify client specific issues and apply the relevant healing process required within a safe and confidential environment. It was a beautiful collection of tools to add to the work I love to do. To this day I continue to incorporate Louise L. Hay’s philosophies in my healing work.

What was Louise Hay like in the flesh?

 

She had an amazing presence, and I could see a violet aura around her which appeared to be huge. In one of her first books, I presented to her  “ Love Your Body” she wrote “ LOVE LIFE JILLIE” in violet ink. I still treasure this.

 

We hear in conversations about personal growth the importance of Inner Child Work which Louise was an advocate for. Can you explain why this is important?

 

To go into the heart to meet your inner child enables you to surround her/him with love denied through physical, mental and or sexual interference and to replace anything negative that happened in childhood with positive unconditional love. If you had any form of abuse in your life as a child, shock or continuously being put down by others whether parents, siblings or friends, these hurt feeling stay locked in your heart and as hard as you try you can never feel relaxed, happy or that you have achieved your goal. Often those who have been hurt as children are high achievers as some part of them is crying out be recognized. This work also goes to the subconscious mind for transformation. This may lead to new career opportunities, new relationships, high self-esteem, confidence, travel, try new ventures and lead a fulfilling and rewarding life.

 

 

How does helping people to heal impact your life?  

 

I enjoy seeing people become whole and well so they can fully embrace a positive life. There is a joy that comes with this work, to teach others to step into their own power, balance and self-harmony are incredibly rewarding.

 

Why is being of service to others important?

 

I went through a period of transformation which has enabled me to fully embrace beautiful things in life. I want to continue this service to others while I am alive on this planet, and my health allows me to continue this healing work.

 

It is in this response that I reflect there has not been a time when Jillie has not actually been in service to others during her career.

 

 

In the Ponderings office, we are quite fond of Kahlil Gibran.

This quote from him reminds me of Jillie and her loving kindness.

 

“The teacher who is indeed wise does not bid you to enter the house of his wisdom but rather leads you to the threshold of your mind.”  

 

 

More About Jillie A. Carter:  In addition to a corporate career in Non For Profits Organisations spanning decades, Jillie has spent over 40 years developing an entire scope of modalities and qualifications that are a seamless reflection of assisting people in transforming their lives. Jillie is a celebrated keynote speaker, facilitator and specialist guide with a focus on transformational healing, guidance, meditation, mind-body connection, and personal growth.

 

For more information about Jillie go to: https://www.facebook.com/Jillie-A-Carter-Transformational-Concepts-2103440829899812/ and Natural Therapy Pages

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5 Ways To Stay True To Your Business Vision

5 Ways To Stay True To Your Business Vision

5 Ways to Stay True to Your Business Vision Ponderings Australia Magazine

 

Let’s assume you know your business vision and why you are doing what you do. It can be so easy to get caught up in the daily.

 

So how do you stay on track in the fast-paced environment of a small business where you juggle so much? According to ASBFEO, In 2015, there were 1,980,401 small businesses in Australia. That’s a lot of business and I know in the journey of our success there are some important steps I have introduced to help stay on track. Because being in a sustainable business isn’t just about financial success, it is about your personal path, your inspiration and your self awareness within the business you run. When you put it all together it creates a culture of integrity, which is both infectious to others and can bring rewards to your hand and heart.

 

1) Know what gives you pleasure and satisfaction

The privilege of working in the hair & beauty industry over the last three decades holds the pleasure of connecting with women every day, and nothing is more satisfying than hearing “Thank you, I feel amazing.”  

Working out your signature offerings, over and above your day to day products/services that time and again add value to your end user will return pleasure and satisfaction to you in ways you can’t imagine.

That deep moisturizing hair masque with 10 min scalp massage takes an everyday haircut to a new level.  Eyebrow shape & tint + lash tint completely transforms a guest having a haircut and color from the shoulders up. What are your enhancing equivalents in your business? Once you know them be loud and proud. Don’t keep them a secret.

 

2) Have a question you run your decisions by

Will ‘xyz’ help my guests look and feel amazing?  What is the fail-proof question you could run your daily questions past and help you feel confident in your decision-making process. 

 

3) Recognize you only have a certain amount of energy to spend each day.

Become aware of where you are spending or squandering this most precious resource.  Maybe you decide you have some energy you are happy to give, make sure this is your decision freely and it is not just taken from you.  With the rest of your energy, where do you wish to invest it so that it truly gives you a return? “Life truly is a manifestation of where we invest our energy” Monk Dhandapani.

 

4) Guard your heart and your mind

As a business owner do you feel open slather to feedback?  Does the noise get confusing? Decide who your trusted people are.  The ones you can discuss ideas and concerns with and catch up with them regularly.  Know precisely the effect these people have on you, so you know whom to go to for what.  

One may fill you with the courage to face the hard stuff, another may be years ahead of you in business and is a wealth of knowledge, another may be good at challenging your BS, and another is a great listener.  Recognize what you need at any given time and go to the right person.

 

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Keep this a win-win. Know what you have to offer others and give back freely to those in this circle. If feedback is delivered from an unreliable source, let it bounce off

 

5) Spend time with yourself and be gently honest

Take time out to reflect and check in.  It is good business practice to meet regularly with staff.   Please make sure they are ok, meeting their work requirements, are on track, have everything they need.   Do this with yourself. Have a weekly checklist that you run yourself past and ask yourself the same questions.  

Doing a checklist regularly will make sure you don’t stray far. It is important to stay honest with yourself, for you won’t be able to fix or move past things you don’t acknowledge.   

 

My parting advice to others and it doesn’t just apply to business- be smart, not impressive.  

So much looks and sounds great in our society and that is all they are- a facade.  If things you are doing do not add value or money to your business, or if they do not bring you pleasure or satisfaction, if they do not pass your fail-proof question, if they waste your precious energy, if it only  impresses those who don’t know better and most importantly if it doesn’t add up when you take an honest look, let the illusion and the person presenting the illusion go.

 

About our Ponderer:  

Mariesa Lauder is a thought leader in the hairdressing and beauty industry. Her reputation in the hairstyling profession, reinforced by the latest technical training and innovative thinking has created a stellar platform for business success. Brene Brown is one of her key influencers in life and Mariesa’s inspirational attitude and dedication to overcoming “road blocks” in life make her a favorite of ours. Nurture, inspiration and professionalism are the principal focus of the “Jomara Business Woman” culture.

 

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So you have excellent news? Exciting news? The kind of news where you won tattlotto of the life kind. You found out a life threatening condition just healed, you are going to live! Well, you might have some ideas on how that one is going to roll, so here’s a little help.

 

1) Not everyone will respond like you. Ok, I am serious, you might think you can fart gold stars, but not everyone will see it that way.

 

2) Spontaneous dance is completely fine.

 

3) Going into a flight center and telling a poor young random man that you aren’t going to die anymore is not okay. He cried. Not cool. And you didn’t book the trip to Paris with him, again, not cool.

 

4) Buying a ballet barre for shits and giggles when it doesn’t have anywhere to go- rethink that one.

 

5) Take deep breaths. Be prepared for a shock. Hot water bottles will be needed, blankets and a good dose of sister love. A sedative may help.

 

6) Be prepared for the dreams. Your little red car might turn into an airplane, and you might fly to some REALLY cool places. It might have been the sedative and pizza combo, but that’s ok.

 

7) Don’t downplay God to anyone. Not one time. You asked for this miracle, and you got it. You don’t ask the chef for the best parmigiana in the world and then double check it’s what you asked for. Also, don’t take claim responsibility for cooking the parmigiana. You are sitting at the table. You might have walked into the restaurant and known which table to sit at, you might understand what goes in it my dear, but you did not cook it. Note: in giving thanks for the miracle you are also giving thanks for self-understanding, for a surgeon who spent 25 years learning about brains and dared to give it a crack. You are giving thanks for listening to your body, and it’s requests.

 

You are not leaving out modern medicine, but you do however also know that science has not yet caught up to the stunning underpinning cosmos reasons for existence and rapid physical healing. They are 30 years off. It’s a quantum thing. It’s not always rational. The earth isn’t flat people.

 

8) When you tell your child you are not going to die from an aneurysm rupture, he might say to you we need Weetbix, and the dog crapped in the outdoor area. Its ok, don’t take it personally he loves you. He just loves Weetbix as well.

 

9) You might be allowed to run now but don’t do it until your lung fills with blood. It feels good to run, but your sciatica needs TLC, and your Foofa valve does too.

 

10) Don’t grin at strangers when you are in your convertible. You might be telepathically telling them you are so happy you are alive, and your aneurysm just, and they said they couldn’t do anything, and then it just healed…and last night your car was a plane. Basically, you are just going to look like an arsehole driving a red sports car who is very pleased with themselves. Road rage is real. Just don’t.

 

11) Do not dilute your happiness. You will be tempted too. Not everyone else likes joy. Some people even break out in rashes and may start twitching. There is an epi pen for that- it is called the front door and a foot.

 

12) People will be joyful with you, they will cry for you and with you, they will send you flowers, messages and may even spontaneously dance with you. Keep those ones, in fact, chain those humans to your foot before they get away. Or pop them in your pocket. You just identified your tribe.

 

13) Be ready for the rollercoaster. You might have thought a joyful cry, and a high five would be the best, and you would just get on with your life. This doesn’t happen. You will meltdown. It’s what happens when you try and keep your shit together for more than 3 years with an impending rupture of the artery that supplies your entire brain with blood and was hanging on by a thread in a big mess threatening your life and a stroke on a daily basis, causing PTSD for family and seizures, migraines, TIA’s, brain bleeds, blackouts, chronic sleep apnea and the fear of being left in a vegetative state getting Sunday visits from your children while you suck liquified lamb cutlets through a straw- is now a reformed wonder.

 

There will be tears of happiness, tears of sorrow, tears of grief, tears of relief, anger and gratitude. A whole lot of liquid will spill from your deep internal soul and kleenex might not cut it. Try the super roll of toilet paper and an even a maxi pad?

 

14) Don’t go into your teenage son’s bedroom each morning ripping open the curtains with gusto and announce you are ALIVE, you might think you are a Disney princess with a bird singing on your shoulder. But you are in fact a very disheveled middle-aged woman with a tracksuit wedgie and yesterday’s eyeliner smudged. There will be consequences. He will tell you to get out.

 

15) As much as you think every song that comes on the radio is an anthem just for you, it isn’t. It really isn’t. But that’s okay. This does activate that spontaneous smiling and dancing response, this is good for your soul.

 

Most importantly wake up tomorrow and kiss the ground and give praise to God, because my dear, your life is yours and it will never be the same again.

A Transformative Life

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